Choice Theory

Now, you have to listen to me for the story this year of choice theory, but I know you have not explained what a choice theory really. Choice theory is a description of all human action, which was developed by Dr. William Glass er actually.

Component of human needs basic theory of this 5, in the world of quality, there are basically total operating world perception, comparison and location. I start from the needs of human basic five, will give a brief overview of each.

Basic human needs

We, human survival needs five basic, love and belonging, are born with fun power, and freedom. We were born with the needs of all these, but we have experienced them in varying degrees. The one person, you may need to belong and love high between high freely by others. We, biologically, they are driven to get met in the best way available to us and are born with these needs.

Quality World

Presence on the inside of all of us the location where you want to save the pictures of the ones that meet one or more of the basic needs of our things past and I think this is, might meet them in the future we This is where you are. These things do not have to meet the definition of a society of quality. Alcohol is the world of quality alcohol, of steeling cars in the world in the quality of car theft, domestic violence is a world of quality of perpetrators. The only requirement of two for entry into the world of quality is that it meets one or more of our needs, it's a good feeling.

Perceptual world

It is perceived there, talked about the world is much, but for the purposes of this article, I want to say is, is that each of us would have got recognition of our own world. Sense our system takes in information through the aroma sight, touch, sound, and taste, but, on the basis of experience of our lives, our culture, to our values ​​we all the information I have a unique way to process.

If other people you disagree with the perception the world you experience, the main thing to remember about perceived world is that one of you that do not have it wrong. It means that you are simply different. Remembering a statement simply this, will reduce a lot of fighting and disagreement that occurred in people's lives. Accept this fact, we mean that it is possible to give up the need to convince the others from the viewpoint of us. We could accept the fact we will look at different things simply, is to move on.

Where you want to compare

We are a place where the comparison to our recognition of believe we're actually obtained, weigh what you want from the world of our quality. When these two things are the same, all is well.

However, if the global quality recognition and we are not aligned, we recognize that does not possess what we want, in other words, we, the action to get things what we believe driven. Either a lot of progress in general, discomfort they are people - as long as it is not the motivation of many to try something different to some extent big pain, and they please not change what you are currently doing.

You want what's best for other people in our lives when, what the best because we know for them in general, the conventional wisdom, that they are different from it we This is where will tell you that it is the responsibility of us to raise the level of their pain in order to get to do the. Right?

Wrong. We will be able to know the best for yourself. And remember, perception of the world we are all different. We have the experience and values ​​unique. We, how you can know we are the best or of for someone else if you can become their skin, you do not live your life perhaps? We will be able to know the best for yourself.

Total behavior

There are a about two main operation. One is that all behavior is intentional, two, that is that all actions that it is total. 's, Let's start thinking of all the work that it is total. There behavior behavior, thinking, components of four inseparable and physiology of emotion. These are present at the same time during the operation of any that we are all engaged. Component action of the first two, can have a direct control we believe that the only component on it -. If you want to change the way something we feel, what's going on in our bodies to (physiological), then, you can change that consciousness we first are doing, this is what we I mean that there is a need to believe that we like.

It is intentional, like all actions, all actions are best attempt to get something we want. You will not be acting in response to external stimuli we some. We are acting aggressively to get what we want at all times. My son, "I am. Angry" because this, I I was screaming because I was using the tried my best to get him still, I asked several times he neatly Later, if you would yell at my son to clean his room, I do was to clean his room which means that it was not shouting, things I wanted . I like this is like being split hairs, but it is an important distinction to be when you are trying to move from the role of victim to that of those who have given permission you.

Implication

Are "malfunctions" people, all that everyone is doing, choice theory of the idea that an attempt their best to the RID our considerable in order to get what they want. Of course in the process, they hurt others, ignoring the rules to break the law, they could be a side effect really do our best to know how they get met their own needs . Good tool, we are doing with the action and resources at the disposal of us than others simply some of the best of our our all.

If accept the idea of ​​choice theory, because our function is to educate, others to self-assess the effectiveness of their actions, must be more we. You have because it's familiar, and they and / or is doing really, because they're getting what they want, as often as possible, they know that you continue to do things exactly are. In order to rescue them from the results of their actions, it is our job it also, but not in our work in order to stop them.

We may do our best attempt to help others to assess the effectiveness of their actions, do not because of a rule violation, perhaps you to choose different way not hurting someone else or human You can. Then we get out of the way, you have to play to the situation out. However, it seems you do not have a job as supervisor parent, teacher, or counselor, and I like it as hard, but I ask, What is this? Alternatives?

If you try to purchase or coercion or force another person to do that what he or she does not want, you might be successful. You might be able to create enough results painful to get another person to do, or find a reward right what you want, but you and resentment in doing so are breeding contempt. Your relationship will suffer. I, as do if you believe you have lost your ability to influence another using external control, the relationship is the root of all effects .